You will agree with me that some of the commonest phrases about marriage include; 'marriage is not for babies', 'wedding is one day, marriage is forever', 'marriage is not easy' and the list goes on and on.
As a Christian, I know that you possess what you confess because life and death are in the power of the tongue and "as a man thinks so is he"; Proverbs 23:7.
Now, some of the phrases above emanated from some people's experiences in marriage but you can determine to have a sweet one or change the current situation. And trust me it's achievable. Always remember that the circumstances that triggered these phrases at that time are quite different from the one you may be in now. Times are different.
Still exploring the secrets to marital bliss, I'll attempt to discuss one of the core issues that can rip marriage of its natural blessedness and fun if not well handled, which is sexual intimacy or the marriage bed.
We will be touching the following key points:
- The role of a healthy sexual life in relationship and marriage.
By now, your ears must have been very eager to hear my candid opinion about this and the truth is that I am also eager to hear from you after reading this edition.First of all, I will like for us to address certain misconceptions about sex.
1. Sex is for every adult: This is so untrue! Sex is not for every adult. In fact anybody that engages in it just because she's an adult sets herself up for problems later in the future. Sex is only approved of only in MARRIAGE. If it were not so, religions and traditions/cultures would not condemn sex outside marriage. From Christianity to Islam.
2. Sex must be 'dirty' to be enjoyed. This belief is what has hindered many married people from enjoying the blessedness of the marital bed. There is no dirtiness associated with sexual love, that idea is only a perversion of the truth about fulfilling sex. Sexual fulfilment is attained when personal desires are communicated between the husband and wife because assumption will mean doom in this regards. Good communication of emotional needs are very vital so as to Avoid sexual frustration which is on top of the list of factors that lead to serious marriage problems.
3.Sexual love is the only ingredient needed for a relationship and marriage to blossom: Hell no! There may be great sexual experience in a marriage but that is not the only rock on which a successful marriage stands. All the other ingredients of friendship and love must be at play. Please, click => 'The MUST HAVE ingredient in a love relationship' to read about these ingredients in case you missed it
4. Sex can be a good punitive tool when one party does wrong: Are you really sure you should punish your lover? Even if you need it, please, don't try it with sexual denial because the consequences are more than you can imagine.Initiate a more peaceful way of resolving whatever issues you have with your spouse if you've been hurt.
5. Just not having a sexual affair with a guy guarantees marriage proposal: I really wish that getting a guy to propose to a lady was that easy, but unfortunately so, it is not. Let's not miss the point here my single ladies.
While every guy respects and adores a lady who insists on not having pre-marital sex, he also seeks a lady with a STRONG CHARACTER! This is where so many miss it. Less attention is paid on building a solid character which is also a very important factor considered in marriage.
Focusing on other things and ignoring improvement of one's character is like playing to the gallery. It is like going to the farm without an implement (tool).
Sex and relationship:
Having sexual fulfilment in marriage contributes to physical and mental health in various ways - fitness, youthfulness, happiness and longevity.
As much as a couple can harness these benefits, there are some other things that could negatively affect their sex life - high stress levels , diet, some health conditions and other background issues. For maximum fulfilment, my sincere advice is that you should employ your problem solving skills and not allow anything stand in the way of your happiness!
Always remember that how successful your relationship and marriage will be is dependent on how committed you are to making it work. You are one leg needed for the journey. Always make sure that you are the good leg.
Stay blessed, stay happy!
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