Dear reader,
I trust that your weekend has been
awesome and interesting.
In continuation of my last post on the interesting topic 'FRIENDSHIP', which I strongly believed was of
great impact to you, I'll like us to look at ways of identifying a true friend
and importance of doing so before thinking about dating or
marriage.
Before we go indepth permit me to serve you this very
interesting story and I hope you draw the lessons in between the lines. I'll
tell the story as delivered by the lady involved and it goes thus;
There is this lady by name Karina who met Josh when she was
just in her second year in college, Josh was at that time a law graduate who
had just picked up a lecturing job in a higher institution in a city quite a
distance from Karina's school.
They met one lovely afternoon while she was on
holidays, they got talking, the guy expressed his love for her and she was
swept off her feet by some traits she was able to see in the guy within two
dates, Josh was quite good looking, very brilliant, chatty and also showed
strong religiosity which matched Karina's mental picture of her ideal man.
They kept in touch via phone conversation (calls and chats) and within few
weeks Karina was already in love with Josh. Two weeks later, he paid her a
visit in her school and it was a time to cement their new found love, it was
the best weekend for Karina because there was so much love in the air, outings,
hugs, kisses and gifts for her. Josh
brought up the issue of marrying her but she told him to give her more time to
think about it.
Months passed and it was Karina's turn to visit, from the moment
she met him that evening Josh was all over her, he wanted them to take the
relationship to another level this time around, he wanted more intimacy and
warmth. Hmmn, your guess is as good as
true, sex! Yeah! He wanted Karina to show him how much she loved him by giving
in to his plea for sex.
She tried to
resist the ugly test like she did when he visited her but she was already
emotional attached to him so it was difficult to say no to him this time. They did
it, had fun and that was supposed to mark the beginning of higher level of love
for them but things turned out differently
just few weeks later.
Sometimes he would call that he was on his way coming to
visit her but few hours later he will call back to say he changed his mind and
decided not to come again.
Sometimes she would call but the phone will be engaged and
he wouldn't call back most times. When she calls back, he will be like, "I'm so
sorry my love I was in the middle of a meeting when you called. You know I love
you so much and I can't afford to hurt you or even lose you for anything,
please understand".
They continued and Josh would always remind her that he
wants to marry her within the shortest possible time once he was able to put
resources together to do a wedding and start a family life.
Karina lived with this hope that soon she will be called Mrs
Josh but little did she know that trouble was looming. Josh had another
relationship with a high class chic who was ready for him in every ramification.
She was well endowed both in her physique, financially and she had an influential
background. To Karina's greatest surprise three months later, she found that Josh and
the rich chic got married.
Initially he denied but owned up later to say that he was
sorry about the whole incidence but that he truly loved her but had to move on
with the other girl for reasons best known to him and didn't want to hurt her
feelings so he hid it from her. Quite interesting! He said he still wanted to
maintain the relationship with Karina. For what? You may ask.
Oh my gosh, Josh must
be a perfect player because I wonder how he could still be talking about love.
Her boo has suddenly become a boomerang, with a heartbreak
that left her with regrets. What did Karina do? Rain abuses on the guy even cursed
and cried. But the deed had been done.
By now I'm sure you will understand my previous post on
'FRIENDSHIP' before venturing in a love affair.
It is very clear that they were not friends before Karina
fell in love with her boo. She was carried away with the things she saw in the
guy forgetting that all that glitters is not gold.
Identifying a true friend
How do you Know the
true friend is another question that may be running through your mind, my friend.
First, there is the need for a lady to pay good attention to any guy coming around her before she opens her heart to whatever the
closeness between them was calling for.
A friend is someone that allows you come into his world
without holding back anything from you. He lets you see how true he is.
The fact facing us today is that so many "people's live
is centred around their phones". They cheat with it, gist with it, tell lies
with it, chat a girl up with it, and many other things.
For this reason so
many players guard their phones jealously, claiming that it is their privacy.
As much as it could be true, any guy that wants you to trust him for who he is
and for his genuine nature will let you have access to his phone. As much as he
may come clean with it, observe his reaction when you take his phone, something
that most girls do not pay attention to. They only take a guy's phone because
they want to prove they know the guy is cheating.
A true friend will not be interested in holding discussions
about sex with you. This is one thing that you must have in mind.
How committed a guy is to making sure that you are okay,
comfortable or satisfied even when it is not convenient for him also goes a long
way to tell you how much he cherishes you. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
You can't be a person's friend and not be genuinely moved to assist when the need
arises, without seeking anything in return.
FEAR OF GOD
The final and the most important trait to watch out for is
if the person has the FEAR OF GOD: This is the ultimate of all the qualities
that you must look out for in a friend, but I must also warn that there are many
wolves in sheep clothing but any man that truly fears God will not be empty of
relevant scriptures when there are challenges to be addressed.
Studying the scripture has a way of reproving the one that
studies it, for it is like two edged sword that cuts through even the hardest
of hearts.
Watch out for these traits but the highest thing to watch
out for is your heart. Never allow it to rush into loving any man. Guard your
heart jealously and never accommodate thoughts of immoral affairs with any guy
no matter how cute he is and how smooth his words are. It is important to do
this because every heart break leaves a big scar.
Only very few guys can sustain claims of affection they feel
for a woman for a very long time without giving up, especially when the girl is
not yielding to his intrigues.
Just give the guy
some time, and the law of diminishing utility will fizzle out the claims he
makes in few weeks or months, then you will know his true self.
Remember, it is better to give the necessary time to understand his true personality than to rush in and rush out with regrets.
Remain blessed and share your own view or opinion in the comment box.
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